You’ve decided to have a baby! How exciting! Or maybe you didn’t and you’re stunned as it may not have been what you had planned. Don’t worry – support will be there for you. Your body performed a miracle – well done!
For many women it’s not as easy as that and life can become a monthly cycle of sadness and despair. Do not give up! There is plenty you can do during this time to increase the chances of getting pregnant. Swapping to an organic diet has helped countless women who had tried everything including IVF. It seems to simple but our food is full of toxins that are not conducive in creating a miracle. Treasure everything you put in your body – it is vastly complex and needs to be well looked after! Junk food, alcohol, cigarettes, processed food can all affect our body in ways we never imagined.
We’re creating a miracle here – you can’t do that on a gut full of McDonalds!
Every mother wants the best start for their baby. Sadly pregnancy has become very medicalised with a lot of fear around pregnancy and birth. Women have been giving birth for thousands of years – it is not a new thing! Yet we are seeing women become more and more frightened of natural birthing and forgetting about the power of their bodies during this incredible time. Our bodies are amazing! This is the most incredible thing they can do – create another life!
Trust your body. Learn to know your body better so you can spot any signs that things may not be right. The majority of women will have an easy pregnancy and a standard birth yet more and more are choosing c-sections. Not necessarily because their bodies can’t manage the process of birth but because they are not feeling empowered enough to try it.
Having a natural birth is an incredibly empowering and defining moment in a woman’s life. Some women are unable to have a natural birth and we are so lucky to live in a world where we have access to great medical care during these times.
Only 2.1% of women in the UK have home births. Yet home births cost the NHS much less money than a hospital birth and are less likely to require any medical intervention. Home births reduce the chance of mothers getting post natal depression and are also more likely to breast feed for longer.
So long as they are given all the facts about a hospital birth vs a home birth a woman should be supported whatever decision she makes. Currently support for home births are lacking even though all the evidence is there to see that these can be better for mum, baby and the NHS.
As you can see from the link the number of spontaneous births is gradually declining whilst the number of caesareans is gradually increasing.
Some tribes expect new mums to be looked after for 40 days after giving birth. They are cooked for, cared for while mum and baby bond. In western countries there is no time for this. Not long ago Dad’s got one day paternal care in the UK. They are now given between one and two weeks. Then the mum is often left on her own with no family in her local area and no friends who are in a similar position. It is terrifying and sets women up for post natal depression.
If a woman has had to have a caesarean her recovery is going take at least six weeks – what she has been through is huge – yet the same paternal leave applies.
Huge changes need to occur to support mum and baby during this incredibly precious time in their lives. Our babies are the most beautiful things to gaze at. New mums should not have to think about cooking, cleaning and being ‘the perfect mum’ at a time they need more looking after than ever before. This will not only benefit mum but also baby too and then, of course, dad will be happy as well.
We believe that birthing does not always need to be the medical procedure it is often made out to be. There is lot to be said about following your innate parent-knowledge and seeking to empower yourself. It is easy to forget that our bodies are designed to do this almost perfectly, like it happens within the animal kingdom. Just by being here you are making a wonderful start. You have choices and options and should have complete respect throughout your pregnancy and afterwards.
Connecting with others is key, reach out to other pregnant friends/ones who have a young child, another option to consider is finding a doula. We have some available so you can see if it fits.
Hi I’m Alice, and I’m passionate about postnatal care. The period after having a baby is so precious and fleeting, although when you’re in the thick of it, it can seem never ending! Having someone around to take care of you while you care for your baby can be life changing. Here’s a bit more about me and why I became a postnatal doula…
We educate all ages on childbirth physiology and birth rights as well as birth workshops, birth keep and doula services. We also run a birth rights advocacy service. Please contact Nickita for more information.
Embrace you down days, let it pass and move on
We’re human and biologically built to experience a huge range of emotions. This can be difficult for some to manage on the best of days – least of all when you’re growing a baby. Remind yourself this is all perfectly normal and just go with them – even on the down days. We need to experience the highs and the lows – they’re all part of growing as a fully rounded individual with compassion and empathy for others. For some reason we feel like failures if we are having down days – especially when we’re pregnant or have just had a baby. You wanted this – you should be happy. Right?
Yet bringing a new baby into the world is a massive adjustment – it’s exciting and terrifying in equal measures. When you add life into the mix – with relationship adjustments, break-ups, deaths, work stresses added into the mix it’s no wonder your emotions can be all over the place!
Remember your baby has been with you since the beginning of their journey to earth, every movement, sound, taste and emotion you have felt has influenced how they will be. No matter how crazy the outside world is have some down time to hold your growing tummy, breathe deeply and focus on the new life your body is miraculously creating. There will always be difficult outside influences but you and your baby are the most important things at this time. Plan to be fully present for your baby a number of times during the day – even if it’s only when you go to bed at night or wake up in the morning. Breathe deeply, put your hands on your stomach, listen to relaxing music and focus on the miraculous happenings occurring inside you.
It takes a village to raise a child.
Everyone has heard this saying before – it’s not without good reason. Many hands make light work. We aren’t suggesting you go ahead and outsource a team of workers so you never see your baby but having a few good friends and family around can make the experience completely different. It gives you time to enjoy parenting without becoming overwhelmed.
From the moment of conception babies get everything they need from their mother. As they grow they suck their thumbs, yawn, dream and move about – utterly content in their safe bubble. Then labour occurs and suddenly they’re left without instant access to food, warmth and security. Bright lights, unusual smells, the feeling of being cold, all immediately become a reality.
Skin-to-skin contact should happen as soon as possible after your baby’s arrival. It’s a huge shock to them being born and they need the reassurance that their mums are still there for them. If, for some reason, the mother is not able to do this after the birth then the father or next closest care giver can step in.
Where possible mother and baby will ideally have at least 3 – 4 hours direct skin contact after birth. Your baby will regulate their temperature, breathing and heart rate all by themselves. If a baby is left on a mother’s chest spontaneous sucking and rooting behaviours begin as they find their way to the breast.
This can all be done before cutting the cord from the placenta. In western cultures this is cut very soon after the birth whereas other cultures leave it attached for up to an hour. This time is used to transfer the blood, that the placenta stored during the birthing process in order to make the baby smaller, so they can travel down the birth canal easier. Our bodies have this all under control!
These methods have been used for thousands of years but have been forgotten about in our modern medicine model. Generally the placenta will come away naturally. It can take many hours but so long as you are fine with this there is no need to have a injection that will speed this process up. Herbs can be used if nothing is happening. Home birth or hospital birth your experience can be empowering and beautiful.
Society expects mothers to
work like they don't have children,
and raise children like they don't work.
“If you were on an island and you had no mother-in-laws, no psychologists, no doctors around, no experts, this is what you would naturally and instinctively do to give your baby the best investment,” said leading Dr. William Sears in 2012
Despite what experts, books and adverts may tell you, your baby only has a few needs once born; cuddles, love, milk, warmth, skin to skin contact and security. Oh and more cuddles. They don’t need a top of the range pram or the latest bouncy chair that rocks and sings them to sleep. Nor do they need harmful products on their skin or chemicals in the house to keep it spotlessly clean.
Our capitalist societies have unrealistic expectations on how fast mothers can and should get back to “normal” – which basically means running a household single-handedly.
Post partum resting is not always easy. This is where your tribe comes in. Before your baby arrives ask a few trusted people to help you in the first few weeks. You can ask friends to help with cleaning, meals, shopping and cuddling the baby while you get a little time to yourself. Use this time to shower, rest, eat, meditate, read or take a walk.
Having a baby is such a beautiful time in your life but can be tainted by feeling utterly overwhelmed by everything you feel you are expected to do. Let go of all these expectations and be guided by your baby – they really do know best.
“This planet could be healed in one generation by healing birth” – Elena Tonneti.
Whether you vaccinate your child or not is your decision – it is not compulsory. Many new mum’s aren’t aware of this. Do your research and make your own informed choice as to whether this is the right thing for your baby.
Check out the links below and consult an independent midwife or GP for more information.
Many people do not know that the UK has vaccine injury settlements. You can claim up to £120k if you’re seriously disabled after a vaccination. https://www.gov.uk/vaccine-damage-payment
Ty & Charlene Bollinger are devoted Christians, parents to 4 beautiful children, health freedom advocates, health researchers, documentary film producers, and best-selling authors.
In 2013, biologist Dr. Brian Hooker received a call from a Senior Scientist at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) who led the agency’s 2004 study on the Measles-Mumps-Rubella vaccine and its link to autism.
To question whether to vaccinate your child or not isn’t being “anti-vax”. You’re simply taking time to do your own research. Your GP and NHS website will be able to give you all the pros. This page will show you the view point of doctors and medical professionals you may not have heard of.
You have a right to know all the pros and cons of vaccinations. Only then can you make a truly informed decision.
Drawing upon her thirty-plus years of experience, Ina May Gaskin, the nation’s leading midwife, shares the benefits and joys of natural childbirth by showing women how to trust in the ancient wisdom of their bodies for a healthy and fulfilling birthing experience. Based on the female-centered Midwifery Model of Care, Ina May’s Guide to Natural Childbirth gives expectant mothers comprehensive information on everything from the all-important mind-body connection to how to give birth without technological intervention.
The Calm Birth Method is the book for modern mamas-to-be looking to create a calm and positive birth experience. Offering a direct and no-nonsense approach to birth preparation, this book is designed to give mothers, fathers, birth partners and everyone involved, confidence in the birth process.
Check out our videos below on birth and how to listen to your body throughout pregnancy and labor.